10.06.2014

"I" and "Me"

The problem with living where we do is there isn't much diversity in our ward as far as age goes. Just about everyone is in the same stage of life. We do, however, have 1 older man in our ward who is INCREDIBLE. I look up to him in so many ways. He teaches Sunday School and his testimony and power always blow me away. He knows exactly what to say and how to say it. It makes me miss learning from the wisdom of people older and more experienced than I am. 

A few weeks ago, this man talked about the selfishness of the world and said, "Imagine a world where people never used the words "I" or "me" and how different of a world that would be."

WOW.

It just blew me away. It made me extremely conscious of how often I end up talking about myself and since then I've tried really hard to not use those two words. I'm obviously just learning, so I've got my work cut out for me. And sometimes a girl's just got to get some things off her chest...

But overall I've tried very hard to not make everything about me. I feel like it's made me a better listener to acknowledge what people say and ask them questions about themselves rather than saying, "Oh yeah, this is what happened to me" or "I feel this way." 

Can I just say, it's so hard?! I'm eager to share my thoughts and how I feel so I tend to jump in with my own experiences and two cents and then I catch myself and remember; Megan, it's not all about you. 

It's also helped me see this flaw in others. I don't judge them for making the same mistake I do, obviously, but it's interesting to see how self-involved we become in life. 

I don't know if this gentleman in our ward has any idea the impact his words had on me. I doubt he does. But it really struck me. He urged us to try having a conversation with someone without using "I" or "me". And I'm going to do the same. Just try it. It's extremely difficult and an eye-opening experience. 

The world truly would be a completely different and much better place without so much selfishness in it. I'm just one person, but this one person is really trying to change her ways and make others feel loved and important, rather than trying to share what I have on my mind. It's certainly a challenge, and I have lots of improving to do, but hopefully over time I can make it a habit and be a less selfish person. 

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